I don't know why but I have always felt this attraction for books, book shops and even magazine stalls. I like to be in the close vicinity of lots of books. I might not read all of them, as I love reading, yet there is some sort of strong pull.This has given me idea to own a chain of book shops like Crossword or Landmark but better and beyond their scope. It has to be exotic! Something which no one has ever seen! I know I would love to own such a thing!
Another of my dreams is to have my own Greeting cards company. Sometime back I used to design greeting cards myself for the B'days and Friendship days for my friends. It would start with a picture that I would be hit with while going through magazines or books. It would somehow relate to some mood or some moment that is close to me and then it would turn into a card complete with a poetry. I used to make cards mostly for my best friend as she understood the feelings that makes a mere picture in some obscure magazine into a card! It would have a poem that would be specially for her! But I have not made any card since a long time, may be soon I would get back to my love once again!
Yesterday I was discussing about The IITians by Sandipan Deb.
I remember, somewhere in the book, the author mentions that IITians do their work only when they have no other option, that is, at the last moment. But that is true with all of us. Here at IMDR, we think it is an IMDRite trait. But I guess, it is an Indian mentality or shall I say Lethargy. They do not do anything till the last moment.
It was also a new discovery for me to read about the social skills of IITians. I would rather say that I never thought about it! Imagine 400 guys and 12 girls!!!Crazy situation!
About the deadline thing----it is true everywhere in India. Women are meant to be protected and hence all sorts of absurd rules and regulations even after you reach the Age!!!At our hostel in college, the deadline was 5 pm! Anyways, there was nothing to do in any case outside, before or after the deadline!
Thursday, September 30, 2004
Wednesday, September 29, 2004
Booked!!!
Last week was intellectually fulfilling. I read 2 books--first being, Scenes from an Executive's Life by Anurag Mathur and The IITians by Sandipan Deb.
Let me first dwell on the first one!It was truly typical exercepts from an Executive's life.The same old office politics, which all of us have gone through or heard about! The same old mistakes people commit! The same old consequences of promiscuous rendezvous!But it all made for an interesting reading.
I want to write more about the second book so I leave you here with the review of the first one to go ahead and explore for yourself. Because that is what I did!
I had read about this new book called The IITians and I thought, now that Five Point Someone (another one about IIT but a fiction) has become so popular, the market would be flooded with all sorts of details and statistics of IITs! But then I chanced upon this book in my college library. I had not intended to read it earlier because I thought such books would make sense only to the IITians! But then somehow I picked the book and after a few chapters was hooked to it! I would not be as dramatic as saying that it changed my life! But when I think in terms of Pre-The IITians and Post-The IITians, it has definitely made me more aware about several things related to the most coveted and respected professional brand we have--The IITs!
I came to know about so many IITians and the way they are affecting our lives and the lives of the people around them and across the globe!
Over the years we have been talking about Brain Drain. I came to know more about it--the Whys and Whats!Earlier I did not understand anything much on this issue. But now I understand much of it! I was impressed by the grassroots level work done by several IITians and was filled with awe by the enormity of achievements that so many of the IITians carry!Even to general people like us it is of some pride to connect ourselves in some way with some IITian! My friend studies at IIT Delhi. We are hardly in touch but I do mention this to my newly formed friends at some point of time! IIT also fills me with some awe. I feel that those who go to IIT must be people of some other planet, extremely intelligent and outstanding, and yeah, with a lot of out-of-box aptitude ( I am a management student afterall)!
I never dreamt of going to IITs! And thank god for that! Because those who do, sweat it out for atleast 4-5 years these days, in such extremely competitive environment! I am the creative sort! Thinking about machines and motors, make me sick...but I admire all those who do wonders with these things.
I was really impressed by the work done by Prof. Jhunjhunwala of IIT Madras. And also of 'The Toymaker'( I forgot the name!)that the book had a chapter on.
I had this argument yesterday with some of my friends who clearly were irritated of seeing me hooked to this book day in and day out! The issue was why people crib so much about IITians not doing enough!What they are doing at grassroots level, even other engineers could also do, then why people raise eyebrows on only what the IITians have not done!
I would continue with The IITians in my next posting.
Till then, enjoy!!!
Let me first dwell on the first one!It was truly typical exercepts from an Executive's life.The same old office politics, which all of us have gone through or heard about! The same old mistakes people commit! The same old consequences of promiscuous rendezvous!But it all made for an interesting reading.
I want to write more about the second book so I leave you here with the review of the first one to go ahead and explore for yourself. Because that is what I did!
I had read about this new book called The IITians and I thought, now that Five Point Someone (another one about IIT but a fiction) has become so popular, the market would be flooded with all sorts of details and statistics of IITs! But then I chanced upon this book in my college library. I had not intended to read it earlier because I thought such books would make sense only to the IITians! But then somehow I picked the book and after a few chapters was hooked to it! I would not be as dramatic as saying that it changed my life! But when I think in terms of Pre-The IITians and Post-The IITians, it has definitely made me more aware about several things related to the most coveted and respected professional brand we have--The IITs!
I came to know about so many IITians and the way they are affecting our lives and the lives of the people around them and across the globe!
Over the years we have been talking about Brain Drain. I came to know more about it--the Whys and Whats!Earlier I did not understand anything much on this issue. But now I understand much of it! I was impressed by the grassroots level work done by several IITians and was filled with awe by the enormity of achievements that so many of the IITians carry!Even to general people like us it is of some pride to connect ourselves in some way with some IITian! My friend studies at IIT Delhi. We are hardly in touch but I do mention this to my newly formed friends at some point of time! IIT also fills me with some awe. I feel that those who go to IIT must be people of some other planet, extremely intelligent and outstanding, and yeah, with a lot of out-of-box aptitude ( I am a management student afterall)!
I never dreamt of going to IITs! And thank god for that! Because those who do, sweat it out for atleast 4-5 years these days, in such extremely competitive environment! I am the creative sort! Thinking about machines and motors, make me sick...but I admire all those who do wonders with these things.
I was really impressed by the work done by Prof. Jhunjhunwala of IIT Madras. And also of 'The Toymaker'( I forgot the name!)that the book had a chapter on.
I had this argument yesterday with some of my friends who clearly were irritated of seeing me hooked to this book day in and day out! The issue was why people crib so much about IITians not doing enough!What they are doing at grassroots level, even other engineers could also do, then why people raise eyebrows on only what the IITians have not done!
I would continue with The IITians in my next posting.
Till then, enjoy!!!
Friday, September 10, 2004
In touch with me
I am a bundle of Introspections, Retrospections, and yeah,Contradictions. Like everyone else, of course!
These days all of us are talking about placements, jobs, etc,etc.I feel, and mind it, it's no gyaan, that there are lots of jobs outside the campus. OK! Let me begin this afresh.
I am doing PGDM at IMDR, Pune. Many of you would think....ok, yet another institute, at yet another corner of Pune. You might as well be thinking, what must be the situation at Pune and Bangalore, really??!!These places are being over-crowded with institutes and more institutes, and the number is just increasing in such a way that the rate would might beat our population growth rate as well!!! But jokes apart, IMDR means Institute of Management Development & Research.It has been around 30 years in Management education, and it does not believes in Advertising itself in order to attract more application forms. So forget that it would resort to several of those antics, so many of the institutes do these days in order to attract companies to come for placements!It stands by its values. Some say it is all crap! Some say the values have become outdated! I think it surely needs some integrity and strength to stand by your values. In fact, situations--good and bad--really test your values. Otherwise all of us could write great sounding words as our Values!!!
The point is why should this institute follow that suite , which all others are following. Just because it is convenient to get placed through campus? Just because campus placements come with some pride? What else?
I live in reality. I think this institute is great but I also know tht none of the kind of jobs I want would be available in campus, and that does not make this institute any less great! I know everone would say it is easier to give gyaan rather than stick to these principles! Lets c!
So the point is when I know that no matter what I do, the kind of companies I would like to join would not come for campus placements, then rather than cribbing wouldn't it be far wise move to plan things with this assumption! Only because HLLs and P&Gs do not come to my campus, my institute is inferior? I cannot buy this view!
Personal Opinion, of course!!!
These days all of us are talking about placements, jobs, etc,etc.I feel, and mind it, it's no gyaan, that there are lots of jobs outside the campus. OK! Let me begin this afresh.
I am doing PGDM at IMDR, Pune. Many of you would think....ok, yet another institute, at yet another corner of Pune. You might as well be thinking, what must be the situation at Pune and Bangalore, really??!!These places are being over-crowded with institutes and more institutes, and the number is just increasing in such a way that the rate would might beat our population growth rate as well!!! But jokes apart, IMDR means Institute of Management Development & Research.It has been around 30 years in Management education, and it does not believes in Advertising itself in order to attract more application forms. So forget that it would resort to several of those antics, so many of the institutes do these days in order to attract companies to come for placements!It stands by its values. Some say it is all crap! Some say the values have become outdated! I think it surely needs some integrity and strength to stand by your values. In fact, situations--good and bad--really test your values. Otherwise all of us could write great sounding words as our Values!!!
The point is why should this institute follow that suite , which all others are following. Just because it is convenient to get placed through campus? Just because campus placements come with some pride? What else?
I live in reality. I think this institute is great but I also know tht none of the kind of jobs I want would be available in campus, and that does not make this institute any less great! I know everone would say it is easier to give gyaan rather than stick to these principles! Lets c!
So the point is when I know that no matter what I do, the kind of companies I would like to join would not come for campus placements, then rather than cribbing wouldn't it be far wise move to plan things with this assumption! Only because HLLs and P&Gs do not come to my campus, my institute is inferior? I cannot buy this view!
Personal Opinion, of course!!!
Job...............less???
The first thing on everybody's mind is Placements!!!Mine too!But surprisingly, I am not worried, like others.
My institute does not believe in advertising, and it has stood by its values through all seasons. I think it is really commendable, considering the fact that there is a Management institute in every nook and corner, and each one advertises obscenly to attract more students and companies!Sad, it might sound, but truely, education has become a booming industry.
Some of us get frustated and abuse the IMDR that it is playing with our careers, blah...blah...blah!But what is really beyond my comprehension is that why campus placements is the only way of getting a job? There are several wonderful jobs out there, and people need you! In any case, no company pays you out of charity, it needs you!Why do we always underestimate ourselves???
My institute does not believe in advertising, and it has stood by its values through all seasons. I think it is really commendable, considering the fact that there is a Management institute in every nook and corner, and each one advertises obscenly to attract more students and companies!Sad, it might sound, but truely, education has become a booming industry.
Some of us get frustated and abuse the IMDR that it is playing with our careers, blah...blah...blah!But what is really beyond my comprehension is that why campus placements is the only way of getting a job? There are several wonderful jobs out there, and people need you! In any case, no company pays you out of charity, it needs you!Why do we always underestimate ourselves???
Sunday, August 15, 2004
Women all the way!
I started a project with LIJJAT Papad, a women's co-operative. It is an all-women organisation barring a few male employees. One of the important things to note here is that all the 40,000 women from across the country who work with the organisation (called Bhagini)are owners of the organisation. Each of them have veto power. No man can be an owner of this organisation.They get a 5kg, 7 kg, etc dough each day which they make into papad and bring the next day. The next day papads are weighed and the women are paid their 'Mehnatana'. There is 1-2 Sanchalikas in each of the 63 branches who are responsible for the supervision of the work done. The dough is made with the help of machine and then 6-7 women pound it.The Sanchalika gets only Rs 50 more than the others.
As it is said that two women cannot be the best of friends but at LIJJAT nobody bitches about the other. There is no comparisons and no competition.
Usually, the entire neighbourhood of women are selected because papad is anyways made with the help of others.
Secondly, the orders are collected from the distributors and within 4 days, they receive the required papads.
So as they say there is no Male Chauvinism in this organisation atleast!
Women Power!!!
As it is said that two women cannot be the best of friends but at LIJJAT nobody bitches about the other. There is no comparisons and no competition.
Usually, the entire neighbourhood of women are selected because papad is anyways made with the help of others.
Secondly, the orders are collected from the distributors and within 4 days, they receive the required papads.
So as they say there is no Male Chauvinism in this organisation atleast!
Women Power!!!
Saturday, August 14, 2004
Women wowed me!
Well, do not get me wrong!
This Sunday I happened to see the world famous (or infamous???) play 'The Vagina Monologues'. It has become a sort of talk of the town. Well, since none of my friends are so crazy as to give 200 bucks for a play! So I had to go alone!
Whenthe play started, well, it was not really a play! So when it started, I felt like ...so this is the begining of yet something new.All the actors were amazing. And I mean every alphabet of AMAZING! I was completely bowled over!
I don't know what to comment on the play but the acting was simply awesome!Since this was the first time, I was part of something so bold and in-your-face, I really did not know how to react to their dialogues. But yes, it was really commendable in which the actors did it! The monologues were all about how 300 odd women from across the world reacted to a survey which essentially discussed...eh..well, yeah, Vagina! See I am not yet too comfortable with the word! So that was some experience!
Here's few lines to Womanhood..........
"I am a Woman,
I am the one,
I am a Woman
who has always Won."
This Sunday I happened to see the world famous (or infamous???) play 'The Vagina Monologues'. It has become a sort of talk of the town. Well, since none of my friends are so crazy as to give 200 bucks for a play! So I had to go alone!
Whenthe play started, well, it was not really a play! So when it started, I felt like ...so this is the begining of yet something new.All the actors were amazing. And I mean every alphabet of AMAZING! I was completely bowled over!
I don't know what to comment on the play but the acting was simply awesome!Since this was the first time, I was part of something so bold and in-your-face, I really did not know how to react to their dialogues. But yes, it was really commendable in which the actors did it! The monologues were all about how 300 odd women from across the world reacted to a survey which essentially discussed...eh..well, yeah, Vagina! See I am not yet too comfortable with the word! So that was some experience!
Here's few lines to Womanhood..........
"I am a Woman,
I am the one,
I am a Woman
who has always Won."
Saturday, August 07, 2004
This day that was
Not a really happening day but I must say this Corporate Finance is getting on my nerves. I feel as if I am getting sunk in all the assignments and works to do! I don't even remember how many things I am supposed to do! I am afraid I wold have to quit this midway. Because I am concentrating more on Finance than Marketing, whatever little even that might be!
Poetry sometimes.....
Elizabeth Akers Allen
At Last
At last, when all the summer shine
That warmed life's early hours is past,
Your loving fingers seek for mine
And hold them close—at last—at last!
Not oft the robin comes to build
Its nest upon the leafless bough
By autumn robbed, by winter chilled,—
But you, dear heart, you love me now.
Though there are shadows on my brow
And furrows on my cheek, in truth,—
The marks where Time's remorseless plough
Broke up the blooming sward of Youth,—
Though fled is every girlish grace
Might win or hold a lover's vow,
Despite my sad and faded face,
And darkened heart, you love me now!
I count no more my wasted tears;
They left no echo of their fall;
I mourn no more my lonesome years;
This blessed hour atones for all.
I fear not all that Time or Fate
May bring to burden heart or brow,—
Strong in the love that came so late,
Our souls shall keep it always now!
Friday, August 06, 2004
Some more....
John Clare
First Love
I ne'er was struck before that hour
With love so sudden and so sweet.
Her face it bloomed like a sweet flower
And stole my heart away complete.
My face turned pale, a deadly pale.
My legs refused to walk away,
And when she looked what could I ail
My life and all seemed turned to clay.
And then my blood rushed to my face
And took my eyesight quite away.
The trees and bushes round the place
Seemed midnight at noonday.
I could not see a single thing,
Words from my eyes did start.
They spoke as chords do from the string,
And blood burnt round my heart.
Are flowers the winter's choice
Is love's bed always snow
She seemed to hear my silent voice
Not love appeals to know.
I never saw so sweet a face
As that I stood before.
My heart has left its dwelling place
And can return no more.
First Love
I ne'er was struck before that hour
With love so sudden and so sweet.
Her face it bloomed like a sweet flower
And stole my heart away complete.
My face turned pale, a deadly pale.
My legs refused to walk away,
And when she looked what could I ail
My life and all seemed turned to clay.
And then my blood rushed to my face
And took my eyesight quite away.
The trees and bushes round the place
Seemed midnight at noonday.
I could not see a single thing,
Words from my eyes did start.
They spoke as chords do from the string,
And blood burnt round my heart.
Are flowers the winter's choice
Is love's bed always snow
She seemed to hear my silent voice
Not love appeals to know.
I never saw so sweet a face
As that I stood before.
My heart has left its dwelling place
And can return no more.
Tuesday, August 03, 2004
Friends Forever
Yesterday was Friendship Day! Since last 2-3 days, I had been feeling very down. Life seemed so dull.I missed my room-mate, my best friend very much!
I remembered the wonderful times we had together!How we used to share life's li'l experiences, life's compulsions,happiness,troubles and what not! I remember, she would religiously bring water for me in case I would have tea, because tea harms empty stomach, as I have a problem of acidity!
I remember how I used to get possessive about her, and get angry when she would not come to room for a long time and sit with others!
But she was the most uderstanding, the most accomodating; she would understand everything! She knew what was she to me and vice-versa!
She was a sweetheart, so innocent and caring!
Every Friendship Day, she would try to get up early and wish me first, but she would always fail at that!
This year I missed her a lot.This is one relation which does not loses its lustre, no matter how many seasons change!I know she would be there, and she kows I would be there too!
While I was going mad trying to reach her, she called me up on Friendship Day and, really made my Day!
I always pray that may God give her the very best in Life, because she's really worth it!
MISS U SWEETHEART!
I remembered the wonderful times we had together!How we used to share life's li'l experiences, life's compulsions,happiness,troubles and what not! I remember, she would religiously bring water for me in case I would have tea, because tea harms empty stomach, as I have a problem of acidity!
I remember how I used to get possessive about her, and get angry when she would not come to room for a long time and sit with others!
But she was the most uderstanding, the most accomodating; she would understand everything! She knew what was she to me and vice-versa!
She was a sweetheart, so innocent and caring!
Every Friendship Day, she would try to get up early and wish me first, but she would always fail at that!
This year I missed her a lot.This is one relation which does not loses its lustre, no matter how many seasons change!I know she would be there, and she kows I would be there too!
While I was going mad trying to reach her, she called me up on Friendship Day and, really made my Day!
I always pray that may God give her the very best in Life, because she's really worth it!
MISS U SWEETHEART!
Monday, August 02, 2004
Poetry at all times!
Author: Laurie Picotte
Poem Title: WILL YOU BE THERE
When time comes to a stand still and the world come to an
end,
will you still be there for me from now until then.
When the moon never beams and the sun no longer shines,
will you still love me more and more as days go by.
The way I feel about you the world cannot compare,
please don't ever leave me I need you there.
I read this wonderful poetry on www.poetryonline.com, and thought it worthwhile to give it a space on my Blog.
Poem Title: WILL YOU BE THERE
When time comes to a stand still and the world come to an
end,
will you still be there for me from now until then.
When the moon never beams and the sun no longer shines,
will you still love me more and more as days go by.
The way I feel about you the world cannot compare,
please don't ever leave me I need you there.
I read this wonderful poetry on www.poetryonline.com, and thought it worthwhile to give it a space on my Blog.
Thursday, July 22, 2004
Mark Twain said......
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover."
Friday, July 16, 2004
Love is a Binding Vine!
Reading being my well...eh...passion, I recently finished a book called THE BINDING VINE by Shashi Deshpande. And I must say it was truly remarkable!It was so real!It is the narrative of an intelligent, sharp-tongued woman who laments the death of her daughter. She comes across the story of her mother-in-law who was raped in her marriage, and again she comes across a young girl who was also raped!The whole novel consists of her trying to understand the mental state of her mother-in-law when she goes through such horror!She tries to dwell into the psyche of both the women and tries to visualise the circumstances.It is a WONDERFUL book!
Tuesday, July 13, 2004
I want to be.......
This is what we discussed today in Business Ethics.I said I want to be a CEO after 6-7 years.Sir said whoever wants to be a CEO, he becomes one first.How?Well, in everything what he does, he does it like a CEO!
Welcome to the world of Passion.
This prompted me to think of my own Passion...think of...my...own...passion!!!!Just imagine having to think of Passion.Arre, if it is a Passion, I would sleep with it, wake up with it!But what to do,I have got so used to doing things that I should be doing, that I no longer remember what is my Passion!
I remember as a little girl I used to love painting but I was a good imitator, nothing original...I also remember words mesmerised me, so I wanted to get a command over atleast one language so that I could express myself well...I remember reading novels, amazed by what beautiful picture words create.
Words are Magic.Yes, it still is!But the zest to write is too subdued now!
I want my Passion back for I want to live.
Welcome to the world of Passion.
This prompted me to think of my own Passion...think of...my...own...passion!!!!Just imagine having to think of Passion.Arre, if it is a Passion, I would sleep with it, wake up with it!But what to do,I have got so used to doing things that I should be doing, that I no longer remember what is my Passion!
I remember as a little girl I used to love painting but I was a good imitator, nothing original...I also remember words mesmerised me, so I wanted to get a command over atleast one language so that I could express myself well...I remember reading novels, amazed by what beautiful picture words create.
Words are Magic.Yes, it still is!But the zest to write is too subdued now!
I want my Passion back for I want to live.
Poetry....my Passion!
If I had to leave you,
If ever, I had to leave you,
How would I?
Knowing you are there
just around some corner,
beneath this very sky,
And still remember you never,
How would I?
If I had to leave you,
Knowing there’d be
no tomorrows,
to hold onto,
no yesterdays,
to cling to,
only a vacuum in life,
Tell me, How would I?
How would I ever leave you
with pangs of gnawing memories,
scar of unfulfilled love,
to haunt you forever?
How would I live,
Knowing, killing pains
multiply, thrive,
in your tender heart?
Tell me,
How would I live apart?
But still if,
If I had to leave you
I’d wish it to be
that rather you leave me!!!
--------------------------------------------------------------------
In thinking of you…..
there’s immense joy,
there’s tremendous pain,
thousands of memories,
and moments, worth living again!
When I think of you….
I miss crazy gossips
of many-a-sleepless nights,
I miss not having to make sense
all the time,
I miss pretending to sleep
while you chatter no end,
I miss throwing tantrums
and still being pampered,
I miss those unexplained smiles,
untold tales,
unspoken moments of togetherness,
I miss holding your hand
and saying nothing at all,
I miss sharing jokes, crushes and
endless cups of coffee,
I miss a shoulder to cry on
and I miss being
happy and sad together….
I miss all that
and much, much more….
For today, I just survive!
For today, I miss being alive!
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If ever, I had to leave you,
How would I?
Knowing you are there
just around some corner,
beneath this very sky,
And still remember you never,
How would I?
If I had to leave you,
Knowing there’d be
no tomorrows,
to hold onto,
no yesterdays,
to cling to,
only a vacuum in life,
Tell me, How would I?
How would I ever leave you
with pangs of gnawing memories,
scar of unfulfilled love,
to haunt you forever?
How would I live,
Knowing, killing pains
multiply, thrive,
in your tender heart?
Tell me,
How would I live apart?
But still if,
If I had to leave you
I’d wish it to be
that rather you leave me!!!
--------------------------------------------------------------------
In thinking of you…..
there’s immense joy,
there’s tremendous pain,
thousands of memories,
and moments, worth living again!
When I think of you….
I miss crazy gossips
of many-a-sleepless nights,
I miss not having to make sense
all the time,
I miss pretending to sleep
while you chatter no end,
I miss throwing tantrums
and still being pampered,
I miss those unexplained smiles,
untold tales,
unspoken moments of togetherness,
I miss holding your hand
and saying nothing at all,
I miss sharing jokes, crushes and
endless cups of coffee,
I miss a shoulder to cry on
and I miss being
happy and sad together….
I miss all that
and much, much more….
For today, I just survive!
For today, I miss being alive!
Saturday, July 10, 2004
Indian Values
This is a warning
I am going to make a mockery of Indian Values, question it and abuse it!
What are Indian Values?Basically, I call it hypocrisy or double standards!Let us start from our beliefs and practises about Marriage. What is Marriage?Why do we marry, first of all? Is it not for a life-partner?Someone who would shoulder the burden of life with you. To get a companionship and compatibility.Who do we want to get married to?Someone who cares for me.......... someone who believes in me, trusts me, identifies with my ambitions, encourages me, supports me....someone who is a pillar of strength where I would take shelter when life is tough....someone who encourages me, is always there, understands me,accepts me for what I am!
Now let me throw light on usual practise of Arranged Marriage.You don't know the other person you gonna marry. You have met a couple of times with your families, or may be gone out once or twice together.You might have talked with him/her for hours.You know how much salary he draws.You know his family's status.
Now compare both the things---what you want and what you get!In India, parents "dream"(???) of marrying of their sons and daughters, and if the son or the daughter finds a match for himself/herself, it leads to a great melodrama!The parents accuse the son of ditching them, of not fulfilling his duty, and what not!
The bottonline of such issue is--If you marry according to my wish you are a good son/daughter, otherwise you are a traitor!
I am going to make a mockery of Indian Values, question it and abuse it!
What are Indian Values?Basically, I call it hypocrisy or double standards!Let us start from our beliefs and practises about Marriage. What is Marriage?Why do we marry, first of all? Is it not for a life-partner?Someone who would shoulder the burden of life with you. To get a companionship and compatibility.Who do we want to get married to?Someone who cares for me.......... someone who believes in me, trusts me, identifies with my ambitions, encourages me, supports me....someone who is a pillar of strength where I would take shelter when life is tough....someone who encourages me, is always there, understands me,accepts me for what I am!
Now let me throw light on usual practise of Arranged Marriage.You don't know the other person you gonna marry. You have met a couple of times with your families, or may be gone out once or twice together.You might have talked with him/her for hours.You know how much salary he draws.You know his family's status.
Now compare both the things---what you want and what you get!In India, parents "dream"(???) of marrying of their sons and daughters, and if the son or the daughter finds a match for himself/herself, it leads to a great melodrama!The parents accuse the son of ditching them, of not fulfilling his duty, and what not!
The bottonline of such issue is--If you marry according to my wish you are a good son/daughter, otherwise you are a traitor!
Poetic pursuits.......
Tell Me why?
Tell me why?
Only once I live,
but a million times I die,
Tell me why?
Tell me why?
Millions of stars on the horizon,
but not one for my sky,
Tell me why?
Tell me why?
Joys are ephemeral,
but the wounds multiply,
Tell me why?
Tell me why?
Life creates boundaries,
but the heart does not comply,
Tell me why?
Tell me why?
Only once I live,
but a million times I die,
Tell me why?
Tell me why?
Millions of stars on the horizon,
but not one for my sky,
Tell me why?
Tell me why?
Joys are ephemeral,
but the wounds multiply,
Tell me why?
Tell me why?
Life creates boundaries,
but the heart does not comply,
Tell me why?
Friday, July 09, 2004
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